Posted by: richardpowell2013 | May 18, 2013



“Bad things do happen; how I respond to them defines my character and the quality of my life. I can choose to sit in perpetual sadness, immobilized by the gravity of my loss, or I can choose to rise from the pain and treasure the most precious gift I have – life itself.” Walter Anderson

When I first read this quote by Walter Anderson it really started me thinking; is character really a choice? Most people think when someone has a bad attitude, that is just the way they are. I don’t agree. We are not created to be negative depressing individuals. You know the type of people I am talking about, the one that drains the life out of everyone they come in contact with. As a matter of fact, you probably wish they would just go away, but remember, they were created for a purpose just like you. So lets take a step back and look at how we make a choice to have a good character.
Now I know you are thinking of someone that really gets under your skin, but for a moment let us look at the problem and not the person. First of all we have to realize that someone’s attitude is a representation of their character. When someone has a bad attitude it usually is a result of some bad choices in their life. That my friends is what we will be looking at; the choices that we make determine what kind of character we will develop.
Now to fully understand how choices affect us we need to understand where they originate. First, we need to realize that a bad attitude starts by what we allow to enter our mind. Once in our mind, it affects our emotions. When our emotions are out of order, it affects our will that ultimately causes how we act out, good or bad. Let me give you some personal examples.
I used to allow a lot of, what I call trash, into my mind. Porn, violence, drugs, alcohol…..well you get the picture. By allowing negative things like this to infiltrate my mind, it had a bad affect on how I felt, my emotions. I felt depressed,low self-esteem,angry, bitter…well, you see where this is going. Then it had an affect on my will which caused me to act a certain way. I would break into fits of rage, be violent, hurt others before they could hurt me, yell, cuss, fight, the list goes on. The worst part is that I would act this way toward the ones that were closest to me. All the guilt and shame would cause me to drink, drug, and look at porn and the cycle would start all over.
Now this may seem like normal behavior according to the world’s standards, but I have learned it is not! Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will. (Romans 12:2 NIV) When I stopped going along with what everyone else thought was normal, I became a new creation! So, how did I break the cycle? I made the choice of good character and it started with a good attitude.
First of all, instead of allowing the negative influences in my mind, I replaced them with positive things. Reading encouraging things from the bible and Christian books. Started looking at encouraging and uplifting movies and tv programs. Included other men in my life that would lift me up and encourage me.
By doing this along with other positives things, it changed the way I felt emotionally. I felt good about me! I felt positive and not so angry. For the first time, I felt like I had purpose in this life!
That had a huge effect on my will and I started to act differently. I showed gentleness and kindness. I started to serve others and learned to love the unlovable! I had become the man I was created to be and wanted to encourage others to do the same.
As men, we are to be the leaders of our families and our communities and we cannot accomplish this without being the men of character we were created to be! We can break the cycle of dysfunction if we are open to change.

Till next time….



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